Like it or not, the new year is already here. For many, this means the start of new beginnings. For me, I feel like I am still in the middle. I guess with having a school-aged child, I see the year as the start and end of the school year. Therefore, I feel we have five more months until “the year” is over.
We had several struggles last school year, so the new year meant nothing in our house. Our big excitement was starting over with a new school year, especially after having my daughter evaluated and finally receiving the results. We know what plan we need to put into place for her this school year, and these changes will mean big things for her and her future. We can finally look forward to a new year to start this new chapter in our lives.
With that, I knew I needed to take all this in and give myself a New Year’s resolution, for the first time, I may add. And I decided on a four-letter word: STOP!
Stop trying to make everything perfect. We try so hard to make everything so spectacular — doing so much until we exhaust ourselves. It won’t always be everything we want, and that is okay. Be proud of yourself for doing your best.
Stop comparing yourself to others. This can go so many ways. As mothers, we compare our mom journey with others. Guess what; not everyone has the same journey as yours. We all have our ups and downs. It seems as though when you are at your lowest, everyone else is at their highest. That is okay because you will get there. Your good days are coming, so stop harping on the bad.
Stop and relax. We need to remember that we need time to ourselves. Whether time alone or time with your friends, take the time to step away and put yourself first every once in awhile.
Stop doing everything for your child. The little ones are more capable of doing things on their own than we think. The only way they will continue to grow is if they learn on their own. But be patient because they are just learning.
Stop trying to be Super Mom. We can not do it all. Keep the daily schedule light. Know that what your kids will remember most when they are grown is how much time you spent with them.
Stop being so hard on yourself. You are just one person. You are doing your best, and that is all that really matters. Remember there is no such thing as a perfect person.
Stop being an introvert. Get out there and meet new people. When I receive notices of events going on, I automatically want to go. That feeling lasts about five seconds, because then I think of all the new people. What if they don’t like me? That feeling that they are judging me. Just be proud that you put yourself out there.
Stop with the what-ifs. We can’t predict the future. Stop worrying, and trust your mom gut. Only you will know what is best for your family.
Stop and take it all in. This moment is just that — a moment. Our children are little for this small period of time. Take a few pics or videos to remember that toothless smile or laugh, but then remember to take it all in. Hold them longer, give lots of hugs and kisses, and enjoy the experience.