In a follow-up appointment after my third C-section, my OB/GYN asked how I was doing. I gave the generic answer that I was healing well. She remembered my reaction from that first talk about this pregnancy. She gently told me that I was no less of a mom, that my scar was the first of many sacrifices of motherhood.
When you think about it, it makes sense. We fully commit to our children. So much of our energies are given to them -- barely having time for ourselves. Where is time for our spouses? I know my husband has to work. He knows I have to take care of the boys. We pretty much both keep our mouths shut. Now, how do we stop and fix this?
I'm overwhelmed! You're overwhelmed! We are all overwhelmed! Yup, that is pretty much the mom life. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a mom who works, life with littles can definitely feel overwhelming at times. Over the years, I have developed some mom hacks to help me survive to mom another day!
Momming today can be so challenging. Wouldn't it be nice to have a chat over a glass of wine (or pitcher of sangria), laugh, hear the words "girl, me too," and realize you are FOR REAL not alone.
The moments we have with our son now can sometimes still be rough (after all, he is a four-year-old middle child), but they are not nearly as rough as they were. My thoughts are not always about Down syndrome, and that too is okay. It was okay to grieve; it is still okay to worry. Even more, it is okay to not be consumed and to let my child just be a child.