Tragic moments and hard times will reach all of us and our children as well. We want to shelter them, but that isn’t always the best way to help them gain acceptance. Part of strong mental health — a huge part of it — is the ability to accept things as they are.
I am grateful there is a date set aside on our calendars to honor moms for all their hard work and sacrifice. However, I know firsthand that, for some, this day is just a painful reminder of loss.
Everyone's journey is different; he or she might want to test new ways to live and want someone to discuss this with. Genuinely listen to thoughts, hopes, and fears. Be a safe place for the person when he or she wants to dream and live well to the very end.
One day you will tell your story of how you conquered what you went through and be an inspiration to that mama struggling with infertility.
Ask yourself, or even ask your kid, how can I help my child to feel safer? Then do that thing. Maybe that means taking the day away from technology to just BE next to each other and be more present.
I know what it is like to wonder how brutal the world around you will be if it ever found out I cheated on my husband. I know the shame that surrounds every aspect of an affair.
Coping with the effects of my mother's abuse has been difficult and ongoing. I have forgiven her, but it would be ridiculous to assume that there would be no damage done. I did not understand then just how awful things were.