I know what it is like to wonder how brutal the world around you will be if it ever found out I cheated on my husband. I know the shame that surrounds every aspect of an affair.
Coping with the effects of my mother's abuse has been difficult and ongoing. I have forgiven her, but it would be ridiculous to assume that there would be no damage done. I did not understand then just how awful things were.
If you care for, protect, influence, and invest in children, thank you for being a "mother" in an unconventional way. As you long for children who live right now only in your dreams, your mother’s heart does not go unnoticed. Let’s celebrate the women in our lives who may feel invisible this Mother’s Day.
I continually search for ways to hold on to my memories and honor him, as well as the family and friends I have lost, and I've gathered a few ideas to share with you.
When my husband and I lost our daughter, so many other couples disclosed their own experiences of miscarriage and infant loss so that we knew we were not alone. Knowing there was a community of parents who had experienced pregnancy and infant loss and who were not afraid to speak up about their experiences helped me to push through my own grief. If they could survive, so could I.
My body may not have lost a baby, but my brain did -- and no amount of scientific research can argue with that. When I saw the positive tests, I began planning for a new baby. In two days, I reimagined bedroom arrangements, sorted through summer plans to accommodate a newborn, and mourned the loss of future sleep. I saw a future life with three kids.
For some of us, the month recognizing pregnancy and infant loss is a sad but distant reminder of another mama's reality. For others, October marks a much more personal and profound grief -- the remembrance of littles we have loved and lost too soon.