Of course, I want my kids, AND MYSELF, to be kind to everyone, but at some point we should also take responsibility for the ways we can help others want to include us. Here’s some of the big issues I’ve noticed that I am trying to help my kiddos work on so that others are more open to including them.
There are many ways you can help a mom whose spouse/partner travels for work. They don't have to be anything outlandish, but know that whatever you do is appreciated more than you'll ever know. Many of these moms (including me!) get into their own routine and are too proud to ask for help, so sometimes you might be met with pushback, but don't let that stop you from trying.
If you are a stay-at-home parent, I commend you and honor what you are doing for your family. If you work inside or outside of the home, I honor what you are doing for your babies as well. I was surprised when I returned to work that it fits my family as well as it does. My advice to any mother is to follow what brings your heart peace and your family joy. You might be surprised where it leads you.
We were not meant to work through motherhood alone. Keeping friends after motherhood helps keep me sane. We talk about anything and everything: married life, single life, divorced life, anything that is going on with myself and my kids. My friends provide me with a reassurance as well as realization that I am not alone in this journey.
Some days, I totally nail it. I #supermom like it’s my business. Other days, I don’t even come close. But that’s okay, because when I can’t do it all -- or even half of it, to be honest -- I try to remind myself that I don’t have to. I am not alone. I do not have to do this alone. I have a village.
When you think about it, it makes sense. We fully commit to our children. So much of our energies are given to them -- barely having time for ourselves. Where is time for our spouses? I know my husband has to work. He knows I have to take care of the boys. We pretty much both keep our mouths shut. Now, how do we stop and fix this?
Saying no is way better than doing something you don’t want to do with a rotten attitude, and it’s definitely better than killing yourself doing something you don’t have time for. What’s not okay is saying yes when you really mean no. That’s dishonest. It’s unfair to you, and it’s unfair to the person you are committing to.