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My youngest child was born almost six years ago, and I can still remember every detail. I love reminding my husband about all the specifics of each labor and delivery we experienced, especially when I tear up over how our boys are growing. When I think of the moments leading up to birthing my boys and the moments after, gratitude and joy fill my heart. When it was all said and done, I walked (okay, was pushed in a wheelchair for safety reasons) out of the hospital, got in our car, and made it home with a healthy baby — twice. If I had it to do again, what more could I ask for?
Well, for starters, I could ask for time to stand still. This time in a mother’s life passes undeniably way too quickly. Looking back, should a friend ask if I had it to do again, what would I do differently, here are my answers in no particular order.
Wait. I will wait longer to go to the hospital. I was so nervous with my first son; I could have lived in the hospital during the entire pregnancy. I was past my due date, and I was overly anxious. I have no idea what I thought would happen during the first few contractions, but I didn’t want to find out alone. My husband and I went to the hospital to learn I was only at a one. In less than an hour, I went from one to four. However, TWENTY-THREE HOURS LATER, I gave birth. So yep, seeing how I didn’t have food or water for over a day when I was preparing for the most extensive push of my life, I think I will wait at home a little longer next time.
Makeup. Shallow you may say, but I will definitely wear makeup. I remember the day one of my friends told me she needed me to grab her makeup bag before her C-section. Whaaat?? How did she even remember that? After I saw her glowing, after-delivery snapshots and compared them to my raw photographs, the question is really, how could I forget the makeup bag? Maybe I won’t do the full on make-over like my friend, but a little lipstick will go a long way.
Professional photographer. I will employ a professional birth photographer. Not doing so is sincerely one of my biggest regrets. I didn’t miss the professional pregnancy and birth photos until recently, as I was combing through photos. The candid snapshots are nice, but there is something sentimental about taking time to capture the polished memories, as well.
Sleep. I will sleep, sleep, sleep. Did I say I will sleep? I will sleep so much before delivery, my new nickname will become Sleeping Beauty. I will only awaken for the kiss of a contraction. I know it is difficult to sleep during pregnancy at times; however, I was so tired after delivery. Honestly, it is safe to say I am still tired from giving birth. Yes, I know I cannot technically “save sleep,” but, by golly, I will try.
Say no. I will tell the hospital solicitors NO. I will tell the random consultants NO. I will tell some friends NO. I may even tell my mama NO. I will tell the folks who want to inform me of the latest diseases, worldwide travesties, and depressing and discouraging commentary to go away, not at this time, I am not interested, come back never. I will set my boundaries in what works for me and tell everyone else NO. I will not feel bad about it.
Exercise. I will exercise more. For me, this means simply exercising. If I had it to do again, I will make exercise a priority.
Pray more, worry less. I will pray more about a safe delivery and worry less about the experience going my way. I wanted to try things I read in books and discussed with friends. I had heard many stories of disappointments. Next time, I will pray more and let the peace of positive outcomes flood my memory bank.
Ask for help. I will ask for help, and I will accept help. I am a pretty independent gal, and asking for help can be challenging. Yet, having a newborn is even more challenging. When help is offered, I will not turn it down. Before birth and after, I will embrace help. As a matter of fact, I may even make a “just in case someone offers me help” list. All help, practical and emotional, is a support during the birthing journey, and I will be sure to stay open to it.
If I had it to do again, I would do many things the same, as well. Perhaps that is a post for another day. I am so thankful for the birthing journey, where I took part in a miracle. What joy!
What would you do differently? Please share!