I feel a great need to give a disclaimer at the beginning of this post. I have a real heart for the working mother. Whether she has to work or chooses to work, the working mom occasionally finds herself sitting at her desk wondering what her baby is doing at that very moment with the caregiver, while she’s sitting there taking care of business. I spent over a decade working in IT and two of those years were as a working mom. I’ve been there. I’ve dreaded Sunday nights tucking the baby into bed, wishing I could rewind back to Friday afternoon. I know that feeling well.
The transition to stay home has been good, but it also still feels strange and unfamiliar. I feel like a working mom going undercover as a stay home mom, like I’m just playing hooky from my real job. I’ve been trying to pinpoint what it is that’s so foreign. Here’s what I’ve come up with:
ONE: I realized last week that in a span of 7 days, the only time I had been away from my children was on Sunday while they were in the church nursery and the daily hour I spent at Pure Barre. At 6 AM, no less. That’s definitely not a complaint. They might be more tired of me than I am of them. Truly.
TWO: I could clean my house all day long. I mean allllll dayyyy lonnnng. Except for toys, I like my house to be spotless. Even if I had a maid service, there is always something I could be doing/de-cluttering/organizing. I finally set myself an alarm for 1 PM last week and decided that I would do no chores beyond the necessities after that time.
THREE: Like I mentioned in a previous post, I wear more play clothes than I did before. That feels weird.
FOUR: On days that I don’t meet up with other moms and kids for something, I talk my husband’s ear off in the evening. About anything. Usually it’s a running commentary on everything I cleaned and a play-by-play of everything the children and I did that day. Riveting.
FIVE: We just went on vacation with our kids. Since I don’t head off to an office each day anymore, my everyday actually feels like a vacation, so it was weird to take a vacation from the vacation.
Please don’t get me wrong! I’m loving being at home with my kids and feel so blessed to have the opportunity. I just wonder: at what point will I no longer feel like I’m on vacation from work?
Any other moms moved from the working mom to the stay at home mom? What surprised you most?